December 23; Will The Apples Fall Far From The Tree? MANAGEMENT BY THE BOOK:365 Daily Bible Verse &One-Minute Management Lessons For The Busy Faithful
He must manage his own family well and
see that his children obey him,
and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.
(If anyone does not know how to manage his own family,
how can he take care of God’s church?)
1 Timothy 3:4-5
Will The Apples Fall Far From The Tree?
The hiring committee was voting on five candidates. I voted each of them down.
One was rude to our parking attendant. Another was dating a girlfriend for six years. The third one had troubled children and the fourth candidate complained of his spoiled-rotten grandchildren. The fifth candidate had two or three wives/divorces. He didn’t seem to be too sure of the head count. (I guess one can forget the total score…)
How could a manager lead an organization if s/he cannot manage the family enterprise? Yes, there can be exceptions. (Note God’s company, Eden, Garden of, and his rebellious creations: Adam and Eve. They had management dominion over the territory: It was, well, a created position.) But let’s let the exceptions prove the Biblical rule.
Management Guru Peter Drucker said, “A managerial job is defined by relationships—upward, downward, and sideways.” (Drucker 1973) These interactions can be evaluated in outward rings: self, spouse, children, relatives, friends and co-workers.
The first question is, “Can the candidate manage himself?” Because, as Dr. Peter Drucker says,
[Y]ou cannot manage other people unless you manage yourself first. The most crucial and vital resource you have as an executive and as a manager is yourself; your organization is not going to do better than you do yourself. (Drucker, 2010)
The management of the person and significant other and offspring are the easiest to assess. Acclaimed management professor Henry Mintzberg says that, “Managerial effectiveness has to be judged and not just measured.” (Mintzberg 2009) These intimate relationships of helpmeet and children can also be used to judge the management candidate.
Dr. Randy Yeager explains in his Bible translation, The Renaissance New Testament,
The way to run an efficient family life style is to have the children in subjection. The pastor of a church must be an efficient administrator of his own family. If he is, it can be demonstrated by the control which he exerts over his children.
But this control cannot be satisfactorily maintained by the dictatorship of a parental bully. Any adult can control any child by the use of force.
A diplomat who is able to see the point of view of his adversary and deal with it wisely and with charity need seldom to resort to corporal punishment as a means of securing compliance with his rules.
The pastor whose children obey him because they are physically afraid of him, cannot sustain peaceful relations in the church. (Yeager 1985)
The best indication of future performance is past performance. Children can also be predictors. Dr. Yeager continues,
Paul is making no judgment on the ability of any particular preacher to manage his family. He is suggesting that failure at home probably forecasts a similar failure in the church of God, which is another divine institution of different sort. (Yeager 1985)
A good parent can be a good manager because,
A leader, to one degree or another, is a dreamer. Parents have dreams for their children, teachers have dreams for their students, managers have dreams for their employees, and politicians have dreams (as opposed to ideological fantasies) for their people. (Havard, 2014).
We finally found the nearly perfect management candidate. She had a supportive husband who knew which fork to use at the interview dinner. We managed to cross paths with her three well-behaved children who were homeschooled by nearby grandparents. She was soon hired.
He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) 1 Timothy 3:4-5
(Drucker 1973) p 414.
Drucker, Peter F.; Wartzman, Rick (2010-06-14). The Drucker Lectures: Essential Lessons on Management, Society and Economy (Kindle Locations 2181-2182). McGraw-Hill Education. Kindle Edition.
Managing Mintzberg page 225.
Randolph Year, The Renaissance New Testament, volume 15 page 379, 380
Havard, Alexandre (2014-03-29). Virtuous Leadership: An Agenda for Personal Excellence (Kindle Locations 491-493). The Havard Virtuous Leadership Institute. Kindle Edition.