February 12; Cheaters (Should) Never Win
365 Daily Bible Verse &
One-Minute Management Lessons For The Busy Faithful


12 February

A deacon must be faithful to his wife

and must manage his children and his household well.

1 Timothy 3:12

Cheaters (Should) Never Win


He was a brilliant staff officer and a highly decorated combat veteran.

He was destined for high command. And his performance deserved it.

But the promotions did not come.

The end began at a Christmas party sponsored by his organization. The smooth Major was dancing a little too close with a woman who was not his wife. He did this with different women over the years. In public; in private…

His boss noticed. (We all did.) The young guns giggled.

His commanding officer–being a grown-up–was not amused. The battalion commander gave him promotion-ending efficiency reports. The employee evaluations were open secrets where trust is a matter of life and death.

The Lieutenant Colonel was overheard later, “If he can’t be loyal to his wife, how do I know he can be loyal to me?”

Scripture, 1 Timothy 3:12, reminds us that people in trusted positions of responsibility have a three-part loyalty test: kith and kin and castle. A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well.

If the manager or agent or subordinate officer will not do his duty at home then there is a doubt that he will do his duty at the office. If a person cannot keep a public promise in the light can he be depended upon in the dark when no one can see?


This management of influence goes both ways in a marriage, of course. Decades ago, Your Business Professor was traveling with my sales manager. And he had me drive by the neighborhood of a job-seeking candidate. “What? We want to see his house?” I asked.

“Yes,” said my boss. “I want to know he’s motivated.”

I was still lost – in both directions: the neighborhood and the argument. (This was back in the day before GPS and Google Maps.) My manager explained, “I want to know that he’s got a crushing mortgage – I want his wife to kick him out of bed in the morning and make him fly to Chicago…”

I learned that this is, of course, how husbands “managed” the wife, kids and homestead.


If a man cannot manage his family at home can he manage his ‘family’ at work?

Possibly. But why would a company’s leadership take the chance?




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